Caring for loved ones

Helping loved ones with incontinence

Incontinence can be a distressing problem to live with, and a taboo subject to discuss. Men with incontinence will often conceal their suffering, as they fear their friends, colleagues and family members finding out; some may even drop out of their social life.

If you love someone with incontinence you can support him by accepting his illness. Encourage him to speak openly about his problems, and let him know that it doesn’t affect how you see him.

Living with incontinence

Learning to control your bladder is an important step in child development. This association makes it hard for adults who lose this ability to cope, as they can feel that it reflects on their mental health or physical fitness.

Many men with incontinence are ashamed of their condition, and fear that those around them will notice their loss of control, seeing wet spots or smelling urine. This is one reason why they may start avoiding social activities and withdrawing from interaction with others.

Unlike women, who normally use personal products regularly, men are more likely to see incontinence as an attack on their self-image, and be reluctant to talk about the problem. This makes it much more likely that they will suffer from depression.

So talking about your loved one’s incontinence and addressing his problems is often the most important thing you can do to help. Sympathy and appreciation from friends and family can help men open up and seek treatment. If they visit their GP they can get a diagnosis, allowing them to get the right treatment and find incontinence supplies that fit their needs.

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